I have to constantly remind myself that life is a process. I find myself all too often focusing on the end result. Most recently I’ve been thinking a lot about what’s going to happen within the next year. I’m about to finish my internship and get a big girl dietitian job. I’ve been trying to figure out exactly what I want to do and what I think I will be good at. I’ve also been thinking a lot about Nate’s and my upcoming marriage. Where are we going to live, what will we be doing, how long will we stay here before we move out of state, etc. I want all the answers now. I forget all the little things that happen along the way to that final destination that I am so desperately trying to figure out.
I remember when I was thinking about the kind of guy I wanted to marry. I had everything planned out. What we would be doing, where we would live, and so forth. I can tell you now that if any of the things I had come up with had really happened, I would not be as happy as I am now. Yes, I ended up meeting a guy that just so happened to be getting ready to leave for China in a few months. That wasn’t in my plan. But neither was going to China to visit him which was one of the best things I’ve done in my life this far. We have also been able to grow so incredibly close just from talking on Skype which doesn’t even work that great all the time! We haven’t even made it to the place of being a married couple yet, and so many things have already happened to help mold and shape us to be the couple God wants us to be. I don’t want to get so caught up in what I want us to be, that I miss all the little things that can make our relationship so much deeper.
My point is that when we get so focused on the end results we want, we miss the beauty of the process of getting there. SO many things happen during that time. Some thing are wonderful, others not so much, but we can learn during the process. We can appreciate things so much more,
I am really going to have to make a conscious effort to focus on the process and not the product because that is not my natural tendency. When it comes to dealing with my disordered eating, my career, my marriage, my family, and whatever else may come my way I hope I can learn to trust and appreciate the process. God uses these steps to teach us great things.
“Slow down. Calm down. Don’t worry. Don’t hurry. Trust the process.” -Alexandra Stoddard